Pickup Lines, Last Hope for the Dire Straights

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Let’s talk about pickup lines when used to attract women. They don’t work and you know why? Because they’re foreseeable and ordinary, the type of stuff women do not want from guys. When you feed a generic pickup line to a woman, you’re communicating that you’re the same as every other guy out there. This is not what you want. What women want are excitement, spontaneity and they love surprise. They're also attracted to someone who is genuine.

What's more, when you’re talking to a girl don’t sound as if you’re copying someone’s lines. Talk as if you just noticed her. Oh, don't forget to be open and honest. She or one of her friends will see right through you if you pretend to be someone you’re not.

Try using open body language, look relaxed but not lazy. A leaned-back body may look cool but reverberates "lazyness" (slouch). Maintain good posture (straight back) with open arms and legs. Direct eye contact is also crucial, looking down or away while talking won't fly. It gives an impression of one who can't be trusted.

Most of all, if you’re able to shock her with surprise then you’ll really get her attention. Something along the lines of... "In case I forget to tell you later, I had a really good time tonight." Or if you have a third nipple, ask her if she wants to see it, lol.

When Talking to Women, Avoid These 5 Subjects

Ya know, when it comes to successful conversations with women, it's just as important to know what not to say as what to say. With that being said, I'll share with you tips on talking to women. You'll want to avoid discussing these five topics with women when you're just meeting them or on a first date.

It's tormenting not knowing what to say. That lump developed in the throat, then what does come out seems to be wrong or doesn't sound the way you intended. That's okay, some women find it cute when they sense a little nervousness in a man at the beginning. This can work in your favor by easing the tension. Just relax and roll with it.

However, keep this in mind... You can have all your inner game together such as a great attitude, belief in yourself, a great sense of humor... but if you don’t know how to put them all together and talk the talk, not much of it matters, does it?

You know that women like to talk about themselves and others. It’s part of their genetic makeup, they gossip. Females have been known to have superior verbal and communication skills than men. So it's not a bad idea to allow women to do the talking. You just get them started by asking their opinion on someones hair style, clothing, etc. Ask about her likes and dis-likes.

Listen, the most common mistake men make is to talk only about themselves. So what if you have some great skill or lots of money, girls won’t care if that’s all they hear. It communicates that you’re arrogant and insecure about yourself. Never good traits to display besides, would you want to listen to someone boast about them self? So learn to listen before you go on about yourself.

Here's a list of 5 things you never should talk about in the beginning stages of an encounter with a woman. When you’re deeply settled into a relationship that's different. But when you first meet her or take her out on the first few dates, do not talk about:

Offensive humor; Most girls get pretty offended when you bring racial or sexual jokes into a conversation. Now, there’s nothing wrong with sexual innuendo. It’s actually a great way of moving things along but making jokes about women and anatomy is not gonna make you any points. The same goes for racist humor. Hey, I love Chris Rock’s jokes, but I would not talk about them when I’m first meeting a girl.

Politics; This is a no-win situation (politics and religion). Even if you two actually agree politically, there is a high risk of getting into an argument that goes nowhere. It’s an easy topic to fall back on if you have nothing to say, but it’s also an easy way to lose her favor.

Past girlfriends; You probably already know that a conversation about old girlfriends isn't a good idea. The only exception would be if she was to bring up the subject. She might try to test you by asking you about your past relationships. Your reply should be along the lines of, “I have nothing against my past girlfriend. We were just not meant to be together. I wish her the best and it was time to move on.” Simple, precise and honest. She’ll respect you more for this.

Inside jokes between you and your friends; They’re between you and some friends, so keep it there. If you have to explain a joke... it’s not funny!

Anything geeky or dorky, such as science-fiction; Okay, unless you absolutely know that this is a topic she will relate to then don’t bring up anything that has to do with science fiction, comic books, video games, or anything else that attracts geeks and nerds. The truth is, you should have better things to talk about or listen to her talk about. You always want to make a good first impression.

As always, you should take these tips on talking to women with a grain of salt because what works for some doesn't mean it works for everyone.

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